Came back humiliated...

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Came back humiliated...

by varshakale @ 2006-09-15 – 22:06:40

Just came back from National Conference of 'autonomous' women groups.

Some twenty years ago when I entered into activism, many women from these groups were source of my inspiration.

Though coming from non-brahmin origin and have different view of womens issues, I have lot of respect for many of these elite and English speaking groups. I respect them because they initiated 'women's liberation movement' in India.

But today I came back, feeling frustrated, humiliated and ostricised.
It hurts deeply when you see people for whom you have high regards for years, stooped to petty mediocre, unprincipled ways.

I am feeling hurt, sad...

Will post deatails later.
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- suzeemoon
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- 2006-09-16 @ 00:14:57
That must be so sad for you... So many of us get let down by those we have admired and respected. Power and even acceptance and respect can sadly corrupt, I'm afraid.
Keep the faith - there are still many who share your views and ideas and some of us you find in very odd places!
Suzee
xxx
- - varshakale
  - 2006-09-19 @ 04:27:42
  Thanks suzee. I will post pp on this soon. They have no real power and they are in the process of destroying tiny little bases of respect too. That is the most sad part of it.
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- deleted user (Visitor)
- 2006-09-16 @ 04:04:53
As far as I can see it happens eventually in all human groups, clubs, political parties etc. Hold the line of what you truly believe in.
- - varshakale
  - 2006-09-19 @ 04:35:58
  Nothing can deter me from my line. It was not ideological issue in its narrow sense but the petty tricks that unexpected from people you once revered that made be sad.
  It is quite temporary though. I can't afford sadness for long with so many bigger challenges to face every now and then.
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- miramaze
- 2006-09-16 @ 11:24:08
Oh Vershakale , bless you with whatever you need to feel and nurse your sadness. This too shall pass

I wonder what it is trying to tell you ?

Changes have taken place. Change is inevitable . Your challenge is to roll with the punches.Bless you as you transform your sadness and this experiejce into positive opportunities and possibilities. You are here to enable the divine purpose of the universe to unfold. That is how important you are.

" We must be the change we wish to see in the world."-- Gandh

Maybe this will make you see even more clearly what needs to be done ??

" Think for yourself and let others enjoy the privilege of doing so too." -Voltaire
- - varshakale
  - 2006-09-19 @ 04:55:21
  Surely miramaze. Even during the sadness, positive possibilities are evident. Agree with your each and every word. Understood what you want to suggest.
  Thanks for everything you said.
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- (Visitor)
- 2006-09-16 @ 11:36:10
Hey Varsha. Sorry to hear you're disillusioned with the various groups you once admired - but Phil is right, you stick to your beliefs and goals, as they are what truly matter. May be a corny way of looking at things but go with your heart...hope you're feeling happier soon. Lee x
- - varshakale
  - 2006-09-19 @ 05:02:18
  Thanks a lot Lee for your soothing words. Surely I will stick to my belief. My convictions, beliefs and goals cannot and will not get touched by this.
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- MarikaSunSeeker
- 2006-09-16 @ 11:56:51
It is not good to feel dissapointed with the behaviour of people who you hold in high esteem. I am sorry to hear that your experience of the Conference made you feel bad.
- - varshakale
  - 2006-09-19 @ 05:47:06
  Indeed it is disappointing.
  Thanks MarikaSunSeeker.
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- diney escafura (Visitor)
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- 2006-09-17 @ 06:18:04
you are onde stronger woman,your power stay in your soul and your heart, in your good intentions. hope my litlle friend,its not possible kill de true. stand up and belivie
- - varshakale
  - 2006-09-19 @ 06:08:02
  Thanks for your encouraging response diney escafura. Surely I will.
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- vachim (Visitor)
- 2006-09-17 @ 21:47:53
Well, I`m sorry for you too, but things like that happen all the time. This is why I don`t trust people, who I do not know.
- - varshakale
  - 2006-09-19 @ 06:37:52
  Thanks vachim.
  But this or anything will not stop me from trusting people. I will continue to trust people, whether I know them or do not know as far as possible.
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- (Visitor)
- 2006-09-17 @ 22:09:23
oh im so sorry you are upset, it must feel awfle. Dont allow anyone to bring you down about anything, keep your head up Varshakale, and you'll go a long way. xx
- - varshakale
  - 2006-09-19 @ 06:34:50
  Thanks Nikstar. I will.
  xoxo
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- Vort1gern
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- 2006-09-18 @ 09:41:54
And yet you have probably accomplished far more recently than they will ever hope to. Don't lose hope.
- - varshakale
  - 2006-09-19 @ 06:31:51
  Thanks Vort. Though sad, I am full of hope.
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- (Visitor)
- 2006-09-18 @ 19:05:57
Sorry to hear that Varsha. I wait to hear more on the subject x
- - varshakale
  - 2006-09-19 @ 06:28:57
  Thanks cristina. I will soon have PP for friends on this.
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- SharitoMar ^Pro
- 2006-09-18 @ 22:02:42
Hi Varshakale:

My English is not very good.
Often we admired the people, and we received some deception, the important thing is not to lose our ideals, not to change them.
To always follow in the fight, without losing the authenticity.

I admire and thanks to you to be here.
- - varshakale
  - 2006-09-19 @ 06:44:50
  Thanks SharitoMar.
  No. These things will not have any effect on my ideals or fight.
  You are great poet Sharito. Your blog is one of the best designed and presented blog in this blog world. Visit to your blog is enough for me to come out of depressed mood.
  x
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- phinebooty
- 2006-09-19 @ 10:19:55
sounds awful Varsh, but just remember, we are all humans and therefore fallible. im not quite sure what happened but i hope there will be a way forward for you. Stay strong and focused
- - varshakale
  - 2006-09-19 @ 18:24:42
  Surely I will.
  Thanks phinebooty.
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- (Visitor)
- 2006-09-19 @ 15:36:05
Varsha *hugs* I relate to how you feel. Hurt and Betrayal is an awful feeling.

The womens movement and academic Feminism has often suffered as a result of infighting and factionalism. It sets back our progress. We dont always speak with one voice.. Sometimes other women can be our biggest opponents and enemies. Sometimes they can do the job of upholding the patriarchial order better than men do!! It makes me sad that sisterhood is compromised in this way.

But dear Varsha, I know your ethos, your gut instinct, is your strongest motivating factor. Be not disuaded by the treachery of others. You are better than that. Your vision rises above the canopy. You allow light to stream in. Lighting a pathway to justice, equality, and freedom for the women you see, the women you passion and pity.

Keep going Varsha. I trust you.

x
- - varshakale
  - 2006-09-19 @ 18:19:08
  Thanks blighty.
  xoxo
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- wendlane
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- 2006-09-20 @ 13:27:50
Hello Varsha sorry to hear you are feeling let down and sad -(so am I) so please accept a virtual hug x
- - varshakale
  - 2006-09-21 @ 10:28:02
  Surely wendlane. Don't know the reason behind yours, but feelings are always similar irrespective of causes.
  Will read 'Prophet' again to come out of it.
  Hug.
  Thanks a lot.
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- oak4jazz ^Pro
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- 2006-09-22 @ 11:42:17
Sorry to hear about your sadness.

In a way, it might be an indication that you have out outgrown some of the steering bodies at the National Conference of 'autonomous' women groups.

And maybe it is time for them to review what they are about.

I hope you have cheered up a little since then

O
- - varshakale
  - 2006-09-27 @ 10:24:43
  Yes I am cheerful and back to work.
  Thaks for the care and love oak.
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- (Visitor)
- 2006-09-23 @ 08:46:17
Yes, how is our floral garland of femme freedom, feeling today?
- - varshakale
  - 2006-09-27 @ 10:22:51
  As I said I can't afford sadness for too long. Got to work immediately. I remember when my beloved dad died I was engrossed in work very next day.
  Now I am very mush ok blighty. It is all because love and support of all of you and people around me. Thanks again. Soon find time to visit everyone. All the best.
  x
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- 2006-09-27 @ 12:04:45
Thats the spirit!! Ahh I admire you so!!
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